1 Corinthians 13: Love Series: Love Is Not Self-Seeking Part 7

"If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love.But the greatest of these is love." - (1 Corinthians 13 NIV)

 

Happy Thriving Thursday!!!

 

Love is not self-seeking.

 

Oh, boy. I know I'll be stepping on toes with this devotion! However, the Lord wants to share with His people on why it's important not to self-seek in situations we face. Before we get defensive, this message even applies to me, too. I know it's going to sting, but God will definitely have His way with ministering to our hearts, and it will bless us for our good. So, smile, precious heart!

 

Self-seeking - 1. the seeking of one's own interest or selfish ends. 2. given to or characterized by self-seeking; selfish.

 

It's always vital to refresh our memories with definitions because it helps us to keep things in perspective, to comprehend its meaning, and to have clarity. In today's world, we're told that it's all about us and forget about others along the way, and it's magnified in ways, which is extremely vast for our minds to understand. It's really sad because this erroneous mentality is why the world is in the shape it’s in. Selfish motives destroy everything it touches. It doesn't edify God in any way. It always hurt others in the process. Even though, we can mean well with our intentions, but somewhere along the line, if we're not careful, it will lead to destruction in our relationships with others, whom God placed in our daily lives.

 

I want to be clear. There's nothing wrong with ambition. There's nothing wrong with accomplishments. There's nothing wrong with wanting to do better in life. Nonetheless, there is something wrong with over stepping our boundaries, when it comes to our morality. It doesn't matter who we are, morality plays a huge role in our lives, whether we want to admit it or not. The way we approach any situation will determine the outcome: positive or negative.

 

How we treat others will expose our true character and it will not remain camouflaged forever. How we seek opportunities, when it's presented before us, will open a door of prosperous or destructive living (and I don't mean financial prosperity). Needless to say, if we're being honest, some people do allow financial gain corrupt who they are and they don't care who they hurt to remain financially rich.

 

Here are some ways to know when we're falling into selfishness:

 

If I help ___________, what's in it for me? I refuse to go out my way if there isn't anything benefiting me in return.

 

I don't have time for anyone because no one has made time for me. Why should I even bother caring for others?

 

I never did like ____________. I will leave _____________ right where he or she is at. He or she put himself or herself in that predicament. He or she is not taking me down with him or her. Sorry, I got to do what’s right for me.

 

__________ is not appropriate in my circle. He or she will only sabotage my reputation. I must surround myself around people who will help me climb to the status I yearn to have.

 

These are a few examples. Of course, there are many more. I just wanted to list some, so we're aware of this trap. Self-seeking is a form of bondage. It may "encourage" us to believe we're doing the right thing by looking out for ourselves, on the surface, but if we delve deeper into this subject, we'll see clearly, in God's timing, that it can hurt us in the long run.

 

I don't want anyone to have misconceptions about not taking care of his or herself, for I believe in everyone taking care of themselves, and venturing things for their best interest, especially when it enhances their growth in life. No matter how old we are, we must steer clear of thinking we have come to a place where we know everything. Just because we develop some insight, it doesn't mean we're a “pro” when it comes to living life, not-by-a-long-shot. Just when we think we have it all together, this is where life knocks us off our feet, taking wind out of our breath. And then, we stop and ask ourselves, "What happened?" or "Where did I go wrong?" Hey, it happens. Life happens!
 

The sooner we prepare ourselves that life happens, the better we are equipped to handle what comes our way.

And this is where praying to God kicks in, my lovely friends. Once we surrender our lives to Jesus, He transforms us with new thinking and living, which benefits us to be the people we are destined to be. He desires for us to be more loving, even when we fall short. He longs for us to seek His face, when life deliriously rattles out of control. He wants us to embrace a selfless life, in which we can see His full glory shining in our daily living.

He didn't create us to keep to ourselves. We don't live to ourselves and we don't die to ourselves (Romans 14:7). Yes, there's a time when we should keep to ourselves, especially when someone is out to intentionally hurt us. On the other hand, God has created us to live in harmony and to help each other whenever we fall.

Whenever we're not certain about people's intentions, I highly encourage you on praying to God. God will never lie to you. He will always shed the light of what's surrounding our lives. He never keeps those in the dark, when they are seeking for truth, once they worship Him in Spirit and in truth (John 4:24).

Society convinces us if we focus on self, we will prosper. Society also persuades us that what's in it for us always promise us that we'll constantly reap benefits, because it is an even-trade whenever two or more make a deal, so everybody wins. Society "encourages" us to talk about our problems, but not consider that others have ordeals they face, too. What society doesn't tell us is, that only talking, and not listening, is form of self-seeking. Doing good deeds just to get something in return is another form of self-seeking. Trashing others and putting ourselves on a pedestal is another way of self-seeking. Telling haters to bow down to us is self-seeking. God's word doesn't tell us that our haters (enemies) should worship us. Yes, God will bless our enemies to be at peace with us, whenever we delight in Him and our ways please Him (Proverbs 16:7).

We must tread carefully, when we make statements about haters bowing down to us because we "made" it. Haters have to answer to God why they do what they do, not us. We are not God and we don't determine their fate. Only God does. When we want others to recognize what we have done consistently and not acknowledge others for their gifts and abilities, it's a form of self-seeking and idol worshipping. God has specifically made it clear that we don't bow down to anyone or serve things, or people as idols (Exodus 20: 5, Deuteronomy 5:9). They can't save us or redeem us the way He can.
 

Haters are human like we are. None of us have a Heaven or Hell to put anyone in. We all fall short and we all make mistakes. That's what makes us human. It's what we learn and how we get back up, after what has occurred in our lives, that truly counts.

So what does the Bible says to us about helping others?

"For, dear brothers (sisters), you have been given freedom: not freedom to do wrong, but freedom to love and serve each other." - (Galatians 5:13, parenthesis is mine for sisters).

To be clear, when Galatians 5:13 mentioned about serve each other, it's not referring to wrongful slavery. We're not slaves to anyone, for slavery is bondage. To serve each other is to help one another. And how do we assist someone? We step outside our world and allow Christ's love to transform us on genuinely caring about the people we see daily. And it takes God's Holy Spirit to do a new work in us, for it's hard to do this on our own, even if we think we can, somewhere along the way, we will fall into a trap of self-seeking, even when we think we're not.
 

To step out of selfish intentions, we must examine ourselves, not others, but ourselves. For it's good to reflect over our lives, and it motivates us to seek better opportunities in life with transforming our mindset into positive thinking.
 

We're poisoned to believe that it must be frequently something in it for us, whenever we're motivated to do things. I will be honest with you, whenever we do good things, we don't necessarily get something back in return. Sometimes, we get hurt for helping others, who are only out for self and they toss us away like yesterday's garbage.

This is what we need to keep in mind: whether you're rewarded or not, know that God is watching you and He sees your intentions. He knows you extremely well and He also knows you're doing the best you can, even though it seems like everything is falling apart for you. Know that because you are motivated with God's love, your actions are recorded in His Book of Life, for you will be rewarded in His timing and His way.

God usually rewards us when we least expect Him to. And even if He stops blessing us, we're still blessed because we know where and whom our help comes from, and He'll never leave nor forsake us, even when everyone else walks away from us. Whenever we're striving to be the best we can be, we must remember that it's God who is ordering our steps. Yes, when situations seem unexplainable, God has ordered it for His Divine purpose, so we can always rely on Him.
 

And we must also be wary of praying that we want only good things to happen to us, not there is anything wrong with that, but we can't expect for things to fall into our laps without doing what is required of us. To where much is given, much is required (Luke 12:48).

When we surrender our lives to God, our old way of living becomes extinct. When we are in Christ, we are new, and carnal desires die, along with our carnal thinking. Living the Christian life is daily. It's not a ritual like only going to church on Sunday, and then do evil works for the rest of the week, and then going back to church on Sunday, repeating the same cycle.

Praying selfish prayers is self-seeking, especially when it doesn't benefit everyone who is involved (see James 4:3). Always seeking the pastor for guidance is self-seeking. How? Thinking that ministers don't face adversity and that they don't need prayer is selfish. They need an outpour of God's love and guidance as well. They don't have all the answers either, for they are growing in God's grace, just like we are. This is something to think about.

Doing God's "work" in vain glory is self-seeking. What is doing God's work? Actively praying. Actively seeking His Will nonstop (whatever that will is, there is no specific will. What God's will is for one person, is not the same for another. No two individuals have the same mission. We're all created to bring diversity into this world). Actively examining our lives. Whenever we give ourselves a self check-up, this prevents us from falling into judging others. And once we spiritually discern our situations and ourselves, no one can judge us, even if they try, they can't, because God does the conviction, not them or us. Actively getting involved with others, if we able to help them in some way, and it doesn't always mean financially. Just encouraging someone is enough. You'll be surprised with the results by walking in obedience for God, when He touches your heart to uplift someone who is hurting.
 

Just being there for someone goes a long way than being rewarded for what we do. Some believe that being busy for God or being busy, in general, means we're being productive, and that's not usually the case. If we have our to-do lists and we complete them, and yet we still feel drained by the end of the day, it's not adding to our well-being. Being productive leads to positive results in the long run. How will you affect the people who need positive influence in their lives? And how will it help you grow as a person once you finish your journey on Earth?
 

Prayer: Father, I know sometimes I allow self to get in the way of what's truly important. Please forgive me when I seek for things, which involves something for me in return, even when I may not realize it. Show me where I am going wrong with myself. Show me how to be more like You. Help me to be more loving and caring for others. Help me to see needs and not faults in people, when they need encouragement and support. Show me how to seek for opportunities that will honor You in everything I say and do. Show me how to pray unselfishly and believe You know what's best for others and me, even when I don't see or understand. Bless me to become better. Birth something new in me, so I will continually draw closer to You, even when I stray away at times. Thank You for doing a new work in me. I believe by faith it is done. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
 

If you believe in this prayer, may God continue to bless you in every area of your life! Remember, this devotion isn't to knock anyone down, for we're all guilty of self-seeking. But this devotion is to remind us that we can easily fall into traps, the enemy daily schemes for our demise. Continue to be the best the person you can be. Your reward will come when you least expect it. And when God blesses you, He will draw you closer to Him, and bring out the best in you, which glorifies Him. Until next time, be blessed.

1 Corinthians 13: Love Series: Love Is Not Rude Part 6

"If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love." - (1 Corinthians 13 NIV)

Happy Wonderful Wednesday!!!

Love is not rude.

Being rude is highly overrated in today's world. We reached to a point where we have lost a sense of human decency toward each other. It's extremely sad. I know the Lord has something to say, through me, to encourage and minister to His People, so you all can be blessed.

Before I further elaborate, I want to refresh our memories with the dictionary's meaning of rude. Rude - 1. discourteous or impolite, especially in a deliberate way. 3. rough in manners or behavior; unmannerly; uncouth.

I know ... that's how unpleasant rude is. Please excuse me, and I don't want to stomp on anyone's toes, but at some point in time, this subject must be addressed. Honestly speaking, rude is equated with the adjective's description of mean. Mean - 1. offensive, selfish, or unaccomodating; nasty; malicious. Again, that's how unpleasant mean truly is. They go hand-in-hand because being rude is being mean, if we think about it.

I will do my best to be delicate as possible, but I can't ignore what the Lord is pressing in my heart to say. I hope this devotion will shed light on your spiritual hearts and minds because being rude is offensive and it doesn't reflect God's character in any shape, fashion, or form. It amazes me how people are comfortable with magnifying rudeness in their daily lives. I don't know how they delude themselves to believe it's okay to pass brutal, nasty remarks to others and about others.

Satan utilizes this tool effectively because his sole purpose is to kill off humanity entirely. He loathes harmonious living in every way. And candidly speaking again, he doesn't care about us. Nope. Not one bit. And it's terrible. The Bible tells us in two scriptures: "The thief only comes to kill, steal, and destroy." (John 10:10). "Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour." (1 Peter 5:8).

Yes, Satan's intention is to bring out the worst in us, not the best. I want to be clear. This isn't about judging others because who are we to throw stones? Can I be real with you? I know it's going to sting, but rude behavior is overused.

Talking about someone behind his or her back, not venting about a situation what a person has done to you, is being rude and hypocritical. Before you assume, I want you to think about it for one minute. Say for instance, Sally speaks to Abigail about how Roger is assassinating her character by deliberately provoking her to anger. And he succeeds for evoking a powerful emotion out of her because she is literally at her breaking point. And while Sally is explaining her predicament to Abigail, Abigail is simply listening to what Sally is saying. Abigail isn't encouraging gossip by repeating or twisting what is said. She understands, with God's compassion, that Sally is hurting and she needs someone to listen to her, not judge her or make her look worse for how she is feeling. If we don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. Why? Because it doesn't make the person we're talking about look bad, but it makes us look bad. And that, my friend, unveils the ugliness roaming in our hearts.

That's one way of being rude.

Being overly critical about how a person does things, looks, feels, and doesn't see from our perspective is another way of being rude, when we intentionally criticize and dismiss everything about the individual.

I understand that, yes, we all have bad days, and sometimes our emotions run high because we have so much going on, and it causes us to be unintentionally rude (although rude is intentional, but in this case, it’s unintentional) to others without realizing it. When the other person catches it and walks away from us, realization hits us when we come to terms of what has occurred. And immediately, anyone who has a heart, we will feel bad for what we have done. I know I do whenever I react unseemly sometimes. I do my best not to make it constant. And once we are constantly rude, what does that say about our true character? Food for thought.

Mistreating a person because they aren't "hot" IS rude. Who are we to dismiss someone because we "feel" this person isn't attractive to us, or he or she doesn’t look the way we “think” he or she should? So, does it mean we shouldn't bother getting to know him or her at all? Yes, chemistry and interest is one thing, but being unbearably rotten to someone because we're not interested is another. Or even mistreating someone because we "believe" this person isn't important as our other friends. So, it gives us the right to mock them or only check up on them when we see it's convenient for us? And the list goes on and on.

I'm not trying to make anyone feel bad, but this really does happen if we're being truthful. This is conviction of God's Holy Spirit for us to check our erroneous thoughts, which is brewing in our hearts.

God's love is gentle, not weak. His love is kind, not nasty. His love is patient, not impatient. His love is considerate, not inconsiderate. His love encourages, not discourages. His love listens and it doesn't give a deaf ear when one is talking. His love finds something to positive to say about everyone, even if the person is irritating (laughing). We know this is true. We all have people in our lives rubbing us the wrong way! I don't know one person who doesn't. However, it doesn't give them or us the right to mistreat each other. It's a two-way street.

After all, the Bible clearly states: "Treat others the same way you want them to treat you." (Luke 6:31).

Before we jump into any conclusions, I want to clear any misunderstandings. What this scripture basically saying is, if we don’t like being mistreated, then why should we do it to others? It doesn’t make sense for people to give us respect, when we don’t show it first. If we respect ourselves, then it’s not hard to respect others. We’re all equal and we all have the same feelings. Just because two people respond to situations differently, it doesn’t make one superior or inferior over the other. We, as people, tend to take things out of context, especially when we don't take the time to absorb what is being said to us or what we read. That's why there is constant confusion because no one takes the time for anything anymore. God is not the Author of confusion (1 Corinthians 14:33).

We live in a hasty and cruel world. Why? I'll never comprehend it. One thing I do know is that I can't worry about or control others just because they consciously choose to mistreat me. I can only control my responses and my actions, even when I tend to mess up at times. And that's what makes me human, and you, too (smiling).

When we come over to Christ's side, it's a whole different ballgame. You will see people's truest colors coming out entirely. Why? Because God's light is shining brightly in you. And where God's light shines brightly, it drives out all darkness and evil forces. Everything is exposed for what it is. Whether it's behind closed doors or, I hate to say it, publicly. Whenever we don't correct our mistakes, we tend to keep on doing wrong. So, we think we don't need a makeover in our spirits. Beloved, there's always room for improvement. Always. And this is what a delusional spirit does, it makes us believe we're doing right, when in actuality, we're doing wrong. Only God can convict and bring us revelations about ourselves. Condemnation points fingers about a person's flaws and hangs it over their heads redundantly. Conviction taps at one's heart and shows his or her errors, and then blesses the person to make amends.

A true person of character constantly acknowledges his or her ways, once he or she comes into realization of what he or she has done. First, he or she repents to God. Second, he or she makes the wrong right with the people he or she has hurt. And last, he or she must forgives him or herself, and continually strives in living the life as a better human being. God delights in our honesty when we come to Him. Nothing moves God more, when we talk to Him about everything while being our true selves. Isn’t it lovely to know that we can carry everything to God in prayer? And after we have done this, He wraps us in His loving arms to let us know we will be all right and keep on living in Him.

If you are struggling with rude behavior or rude behavior is being directed toward you, I would love to pray for you.

Prayer: Father, I admit there are times I'm not my best. And I let my situations get the best of me. However, I'm coming to the conclusion, it doesn't excuse my behavior for being rude to others, when they don't mean me harm or when they do. I'm asking You to create in me a clean heart and renew a right spirit within me. I know it's through Jesus, I am redeemed and there is no condemnation to those who are in Jesus Christ. Help me to think carefully in what I do or say. But whenever I fall, please catch me and make the situation right. I'm truly sorry for how I behave because it doesn't glorify You whenever I rudely react to others. And for those who have been rude to me, Lord, I ask You to help and show them where they are making errors, too. Show them they don't have to embrace rudeness and hurt others in the process, but release whatever is stirring in their hearts to You. Redeem them, give them a new heart and mind, and bless them to make right decisions, which glorifies You wholeheartedly. In Jesus' name, Amen.

If you believe in this prayer, may you be healed and set free. Remember, how we react to situations and make our decisions is a daily thing. How you live is far more important than what you possess. Nothing is more precious than your soul, for you are unique and you are created for God's glory. Until next time, be blessed.

1 Corinthians 13: Love Series: Love Is Not Proud Part 5

"If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love." - (1 Corinthians 13 NIV)

 

Happy Fantastic Friday!!!

 

Love is not proud.

 

Pride is something else ...

 

Before I elaborate on this topic, let's refresh our memories what the term proud means. Proud - 1. feeling pleasure or satisfaction over something regarded as highly honorable or creditable to oneself. 2. having, proceeding from, or showing a high opinion of one's own dignity, importance, or superiority.

 

Okay ... now I'm ready to discuss this subject as God's Holy Spirit is leading me to say to His People who are hungry and listening for His Truths. Like I mentioned in the last post, there is nothing wrong with being proud of the accomplishments we achieve, because it reflects our diligence and hard work which pays off to our benefit. And God desires for us to do everything in the glory of Him. (1 Corinthians 10:31).

 

Just to be clear, this isn't referring to doing foolish things which is considered as sin in God's eyes. Whatever gifts God gave you, do it for His Glory. Every good and perfect gift comes from Him. (James 1:17). And even with dark situations we see on TV or read in e-books or books, there are still revelations to learn, even if it is made for pure entertainment. It's not what enter a person, which defiles him or her, but what comes out of his or her heart, which defiles him or her. (Matthew 15:11).

 

In today's world, our actions betray us for who we are on the surface. Nonetheless, God sees deeper on why we do what we do, which directs us to make drastic decisions. I honestly don't believe people do what they do for no reason. There is something that provokes or motivates us to perform good or evil deeds.

 

Not trying to shift subjects, but I want to clarify my earlier statement before we understand why being proud doesn't glorify God or His Love. When 1 Corinthians 13 was referring to love is not proud, it's aiming toward the second definition, which God has an issue about our grotesque behavior when we allow worldly things to inflate our egos.

 

I will not deny that I have a pet peeve about people who are cocky and self-absorbed. This kind of attitude displays unpleasant results, which ruin relationships (no matter what kind) terribly.

 

This kind of pride, God abhors, destroys our character and it clouds our judgment, and it deceives us to believe we are right, when we're altogether wrong. I'm not trying to step on anyone's toes, but if we're truly candid about this topic, we know this hits home close to our hearts, because we all have been guilty of allowing pride ruling our nature.

 

When converting as a true believer, the Lord will make certain we don't stay same once we know who He truly is. There are stages in conversion. No one becomes Christ-like overnight. Anyone who says otherwise, the truth isn't in them. We won't truly be completed in Christ until we leave Earth. And that's when our mission is complete, and we have finally finish running this race with patience.

 

Pride stands in the way of God's truth.

 

Pride damages existing or blossoming relationships.

 

Pride deludes us to believe we're superior over others and it's all right to hurt others in the process while we seize after what life is offering to us.

 

Pride sabotages our souls daily, when we're not walking in the light while we're doing wrong.

 

Pride never listens to what the other party is saying and it never considers the other's point-of-view.

 

Pride is always right and refuses to apologize when in error.

 

Pride pulls us away from God, even though He is always present in our midst.

 

Pride relies on self instead of God.

 

Pride discourages others who are trying to find their way in life, while it boasts exceedingly what it can do versus what they can't do.

 

Pride persuades us to believe that others shouldn't be our family and friends because they view the world differently than we do, so we act like we don't know them or refuse to listen to them.

 

Pride is prejudiced to everything that doesn't fit into what it believes isn't "right" in its own world.

 

And who gets hurt when pride consumes one's soul? You do. I do. She does. He does. They do. We do.

 

In God's sight, we're all equal. (Galatians 3:28).

 

The enemy utilizes pride so effectively in us, where we can't see the ultimate damage until his scheme comes into full circle of what he is doing to us.

 

This is why I'm so glad that God helps uncover the truth while we're gradually walking out of darkness one-step-at-a-time. I'm also glad to know that He can deliver us out of this horrid sin, which truly wants to keep us bound and causes contention with our brothers and sisters. But how do we not get devoured by pride, I hear you asking me The answer is simple: humbling ourselves to God in prayer.

 

Our wild culture deludes us to believe that refusing to apologize somehow makes us stronger and wiser, when it screams the exact opposite with God. Pride is a selfish attitude, which is learned from watching others who fell into this horrible trap.

 

One thing I love about prayer, it breaks all barriers, which our natural eyes can't see. Prayer always open the door between God and us. Prayer always releases burdens we won't normally carry to our family and friends. Prayer is the ultimate healing which can set us free from having impure thoughts. Prayer is a sweet confession, which God and you only know about. Prayer connects with humility when we're releasing our troubles to our Heavenly Father.

 

When loved ones stop speaking to you, God is there.

 

When enemies are raging out of control, God will deliver you out of their clutches.

 

When you suffered from losing everything, God knows how to make the wrong right by birthing something new in you.

 

When you come into realization of what you have done to others or what others have done to you, God redeems you, them, and the relationship.

 

But when the relationship seems beyond repair, God can and will set you free, and bless you with new friends after His own heart. Not every relationship will last, especially when it's not in His will for your life, in the first place. And this has nothing to do with pride, sometimes, we must know and learn when to let go concerning our best interest at heart.

 

Pride hinders. Humility sets free.

 

Prayer: Father, I humble myself before you because I want to be delivered from having wrongful pride today. I admit that I didn't handle the situation appropriately, but I'm asking You to intervene on my behalf and set me free from arrogant and wayward thinking. Bless me to recognize when I fall short of possessing pride in my heart. Show me Your ways which glorifies you and deliver me from this struggle. I'm sorry for allowing self get in the way of what You are doing in my life. Show me how to make any relationship right, which I messed up in. And deliver people I know and love from any pride they're struggling with, too. Show them where they are making errors in hurting others. Bless them to be free of pride as well. In Jesus' Name, Amen.

 

If you believe in this prayer, may God comfort you and provide you the healing you need right now. Trade pride for humility, today. Walk in victory. Whom the Son set free, truly we are free, indeed. (John 8:36). Until next time, be blessed.

 

1 Corinthians 13: Love Series: Love Does Not Boast Part 4

"If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love." - (1 Corinthians 13 NIV)

 

Happy Wonderful Wednesday!!!

 

I know it's been a minute. And it wasn't intentional for me to stay away so long. But in between working and writing my new e-book, God is still moving in my life, and I'm glad He has redeemed me with another chance. It's true that the prayers of the righteous availeth much! He dwells in my heart and in my praise. In spite of the enemy trying to kick me down at my job and in my personal life, but it's only because February 27th is my spiritual birthday of receiving Jesus as my personal Savior, and so far, He is still wonderful to me. I have a lot to rejoice about.

 

I really don't know what 2013 holds, but all I know is that my life is in God's Hands and no one will pluck me out of them.

 

Today, the Lord wants me to share with you about boasting.

 

Love does not boast.

 

My, how this word is used out-of-context and in a precarious manner! Boast is defined as speaking with exaggeration and in excessive (wrongful and ugly) pride. Parenthesis is mine.

 

Don't get me wrong. There is nothing wrong with being proud of our accomplishments because only we know what we endured to get where we are.

 

But God's ultimate definition about distasteful boasting stinks in His nostrils. And I can honestly see why. It causes us to excessively exalt ourselves in ways the human mind can't begin to fathom. Erroneous boasting leads to hideous arrogance, which can alter our personalities for the worst, instead of our best interest at heart. I know this is a hard pill to swallow, nevertheless, God is urging me to share this with you, so you can see for yourself how horrendous boasting is.

 

Extreme boasting inflates our egos to make us believe we're untouchable. It causes us to engage in sinful acts to betray and crush each other, just so we can be important and rule "forever."

 

No one lives forever. Not all the money in the world can bring you back from death. It is God and God alone, who determines our destiny, whether we get another chance at life or not. Playing as God is not recommended and it isn't healthy for our souls.

 

When we feel our lives slipping from us, we come to realize we're not as powerful as we think we are.

 

Selfish boasting leads to delusion in our thinking that we're better than everyone else. God abhors the pride of life. Pride of life manipulates us to believe that life is guaranteed to us if we get our way, forgetting the consequences.

 

In our current world, today, we're consumed in believing that waiting takes too long, that we're self-entitled without working hard for what we want, that waiting is for "losers" like you and me, when God has some dynamic blessings for us, which can change our lives for the better, when we step in His timing.

 

I've come to learn, beautiful friends, that waiting on God's timing is better than running ahead of Him or behind Him, just so I can get what I want. I want to be clear: waiting doesn't mean we should be idle!

 

Occupying our time is valuable because it teaches us discipline, grace, humility, and character. And no, we're not perfect, but it's vital that we possess these lovely qualities to make us become better and not bitter. 

 

I will never forget, in 2004, I was extremely impatient about getting my place. I'm laughing about it now because I can't believe I was rushing for nothing. I thank God He was extremely patient with me and that He was teaching me about the beauty in having patience.

 

I was uncomfortable when I went into a women's shelter located in Brooklyn. I lived in Brownsville, at the time, and I was scared for my life, and yet, God has protected me from all harm's way. I wanted to get my blessing, which God has promised me while I was residing there. I didn't really have much life experience, and I still don't have much to a certain extent, because He is still working on me.

 

I didn't understand then why God wanted me to wait on Him.

 

Now reflecting back, I see why He desired for me to wait!

 

1. God was teaching me that if I wanted to have my own place, I had to save money accordingly, in order to have my own.

 

2. He was teaching me that rushing in life doesn't solve anything, but it causes too many freak accidents, which can be avoided in my life (and yours, too). We can't avoid everything. Nonetheless, some things can be avoided, if we take heed.

 

3. He was also teaching me that everything must be done decently and in order (1 Corinthians 14:40). Life can't thrive off chaos. Too much chaos can destroy a good thing, especially when it's not in our best interest.

 

4. And He was also teaching me that if He promised me something, it doesn't matter if it's 2 days or 2 years, He shall bring it to pass because He doesn't lie—at all! My friends, He really doesn't lie. Everything He told me would happen, really did take place! (Numbers 23:19).

 

And in His perfect timing, He granted my desire of having a place of my own on October 7th 2008. And I'm still living here. Yes, what a Mighty God I serve! :)

 

Dark boasting, in time, starts to make people see us in a different light, when they see us claiming to be something we're not. Ugly boasting is unattractive. It’s deceiving us to believe we're better than everyone else, who doesn't possess much. It’s disconcerting to one's soul. And it also abandons us into a dreary place of severe loneliness. Loneliness isn't good for anyone! Sometimes this happens because of our own doing, or God wants us in that place for a season, because He's doing something new in us, for His wonderful glory.

 

The only boasting God requires us to do is exalting Him. Psalms 34:2, 1 Corinthians 1:31, and 2 Corinthians 2:17 explain about boasting in God because He is Sovereign and no one takes His place. Throughout the Bible, God makes it painfully clear why we shouldn't serve false gods. Idols can't make rain fall out of the sky. They can't make a way out of no way like He can. And they certainly can't redeem us after we mess up royally!

 

I boast in God because I don't only know of Him, but I truly know Him for myself. I developed a personal relationship with Him through prayer. Beloved, we can't beat the power of prayer.

 

If we need a breakthrough, God is guaranteed to step-in-on-time, when we least expect Him to.

 

If we need healing, God will send us a Rhema Word at the appointed time, which is beneficial to our souls.

 

If we need understanding, when no one else understands us. Jesus is our Comforter whenever we're in trouble while feeling our lives slipping away from us.

 

We can try everything in the world, but nothing else compares when we try God for ourselves. And His guaranteed results, in a pricey and an unpredictable world, are priceless!

 

Prayer: Father, forgive me when I place my confidence in wrong things, which aren't definite to me. Help me to recognize the difference in rightful boasting in You and wrongful boasting in self. I'm sorry that I let my pride get in the way of what You're doing in my life. Bless me to rely on You more and not be caught up with today's gimmicks, which can disappear in my life tomorrow. I trust You alone, even when everything seems uncertain for me. Bless me to remember that You are in control and You are walking with me through my troubled times. In Jesus' Name, Amen.

 

If you believe in this prayer, may God continue to transform you the way He intends you to be, for your purposed life (whatever it may be). And may He bless you real good. Until next time, be blessed.

 

1 Corinthians 13: Love Series: Love Does Not Envy Part 3

"If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love." - (1 Corinthians 13 NIV)

 

Happy Terrific Tuesday!!!

 

Love does not envy.

 

Envy and jealousy are correlated in ways words can't deeply express. And yet, they differ. We discuss about these two words and we believe with all our hearts this is completely natural to be envious and jealous of others all the time.

 

Right?

 

Wrong.

 

Before I delve into this subject, we're going to refresh our memories of the dictionary's meaning of envy. Envy - feeling of discontent or covetousness with regard to another's advantages, success, possessions, etc. It is also an object of envious feeling. Obsolete: ill will.

 

Jealous - feeling resentment against someone because of that person’s rivalry, success, or advantages. It’s also characterized by or proceeding from suspicious fears or envious resentment. And inclined to or troubled by suspicions or fears of rivalry, unfaithfulness, etc., as in love or aims.

 

I want to focus on envy because we all know that envious behavior does happen. While envy appears to be harmless on the surface, nonetheless, the Bible describes how hideous envy really is, especially when it's not dealt with properly.

 

What we fail to realize is, when we secretly hate what others have versus what we don't have, it can cause unnecessary drama and sever ties in relationships for years to come, all because we're focused on others' shining qualities instead of our own.

 

And I want to be clear, I'm not knocking anyone who is struggling in this area, for we all have struggles, including yours truly. You gotta love the media. They are pros when it comes to magnifying envy, jealousy, and strife because they lure their audience to watch and to make their shows intriguing, and it boosts ratings. (Hey, I'm just being honest.)

 

Although, it may be entertaining, but most shows have lessons to learn, if we strictly pay attention to what these actions display to us.

 

I truly believe we all have something to offer on Earth. God did create us for His Glory and He didn't make two individuals alike. He also didn't create us to cruelly devour others, just so we can be on top while they're left to die spiritually, mentally, and emotionally, and sometimes, physically.

 

Instead of us giving sincere compliments to people we run into on a daily basis, we're so quick of finding everything wrong with them, rather than finding positive things about them.

 

The spirit of envy is rooted from the enemy. Satan always uses comparisons to make us feel inadequate. He constantly uses vanity to make us believe if we look like the people we see on television, we'll truly be accepted in society.

 

If we have more money, we're deemed as highly important.

 

If we have more houses, cars, yachts, etc., we'll most likely have friends.

 

If we discard people we consider as "losers," it will boost our popularity level to an ultimate high.

 

I believe you know where I'm going with this.

 

Here's the important question I want you to ask yourself: Is coveting after another person's success, appearance, or social status worth it? Will this envious behavior broadcast me as positive or negative?

 

Just to be clear: there’s nothing wrong with having accomplishments or wanting to better ourselves. I'm all for that. No one desires to be in a constant rut. No one.

 

But bettering ourselves doesn't mean thinking we're above others. We all fall short!

 

Whatever God is saying to you, in this message, may it glorify Him and Him alone, you know you better than anyone, and He knows you better than you know yourself. Feeling envious over what some else has will only zap precious energy from you, beloved. And it will only leave you feeling worthless, when you actually do have worth: God's worth. God has made you for His Glory. Discover who you are and embrace it. There's room for everyone. To make this world a better place, it all starts with us.

 

Won't you join me to become better and not bitter?

 

Prayer: Father, I release my struggle of feeling envious to You. I can't help it, sometimes, because everywhere I turn, it seems like everyone is "rising to the top" but me. Lord, if I'm keeping up with others to have, just so I can have, then please forgive me and cleanse me of my sin. I want to be better in You. I know You will supply all my needs according to Your riches in Glory through Jesus Christ. Help me to find positive things to say about everyone I encounter with, instead of destroying them with vicious comments, which doesn't exalt You. Thank You for healing me from the spirit of envy and blessing me to love others and myself unconditionally. In Jesus' name, Amen.

 

If you believe in this prayer, and transformation has taken place, then you are forgiven. If not, continually give it over to God in prayer until you are delivered. He draws near to those who are broken in spirit and they're in need for genuine change. God loves all of us. As long as we're honest with Him, He will always guide us and show us what we need to do next for our success. Jesus truly loves you and I do as well. Until next time, be blessed.

 

1 Corinthians 13: Love Series: Love Is Kind Part 2

"If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love.But the greatest of these is love." - (1 Corinthians 13 NIV)

 

Happy New Year and Happy Wonderful Wednesday!!!

 

I apologize for delaying on putting new updates on my blog. While I'm being busy with a new job, re-publishing my e-book, and working on my next e-book, I will still find the time to post here as much as I can. I'm still working on this Love Series because God wants you to know His love for yourself, and through His guidance, I will write what He wants me to say, so you can get the breakthrough you need, which is glorified in God, and God alone.

 

Love is kind.

 

The dictionary describes the term kind as affectionate, warm, helpful, and considerate. Some people associate nice with kind. Nice and kind don’t have the same meaning. Nice is defined as pleasing, agreeable, and even delightful.

 

Anyone can be nice, but not everyone is kind. Kindness is going out our way to help someone in need. Being kind reflects our characters on the inside.

 

Some people use flattery to get what they want and they misconstrue it with being kind.

A person who is displaying authentic kindness doesn't use manipulation to get what he or she wants, just because he or she believes that satisfaction is guaranteed while doing things his or her way.

 

Using consideration and showing genuine interest makes all the difference in the world. I often ask myself: Why do we feel we have to use "kindness” and believe we're entitled to getting something in return? Why should we mask our real feelings because we're afraid of how others might or might not respond to us?

 

Why are some people are frightened about showing true kindness?

 

The answer is simple: They're only acting out what they know and this is the way-of-life for them.

 

Let's admit it. When people come to us out of nowhere, our guards stand firm because we don't want our vulnerability to arise while they're standing in our faces. And then, we're constantly misunderstood because we remain nonchalant and we don't want anyone to see what we're feeling inside.

 

Kindness is checking on someone without any legitimate reason, and it shows that the individual actually cares.

 

Kindness is saying a prayer for someone when he or she is not able to pray for him or herself.

 

Kindness exhibits consideration and it doesn't assume.

 

Kindness is selfless and it ties in with love, as it seeks for nothing in return, because when unadulterated kindness arrives, the same gesture is returned back when least expected.

 

The best way to learn about someone is to simply listen to him or her, which will give you an indication of who that person is. I want to be clear, when a person is venting in anger, it doesn't necessarily mean that's who he or she is. That's how he or she is feeling at the moment. We're human, we all have a right to express ourselves without being ridiculed or ignored.

 

If a person dismisses what you're saying, but you're always listening to them, this attitude reflects selfish intention and this person is convinced that the world revolves around him or her.

 

God's love embraces us while He’s pressing us close to Him, letting us know we are loved and everything will be all right because He’s in control.

 

He is the One I run to, when I'm often misunderstood.

 

He is the One I call on, when I'm forgotten.

 

He is the One I can rely on, when I have no way out, and He keeps on coming to my rescue because He sees and knows my heart, even when I mess up.

 

He shows me what legitimate kindness truly is, when everyone abandons me in bad times, and I never feel lonely. That's why I'm not easily moved when people use the term "friends" loosely.

 

God is my Super Friend, like Mary Mary sings on The Sound, and He will never leave me nor forsake me, and the same goes for you, too. (smiling.)

 

He has shown me how to be kind even to the unlovely. He has shown me to look beyond a person's faults and give him or her a chance. But God also has shown me when to cut ties with certain relationships as well, especially when I'm the one who is constantly hurt. And that kind of friend I gotta let go, and this is where God's discernment comes in. Yes, He wants us to be gracious and forgiving, but He also wants us to step away for a season, just so we can heal and get His Perspective on particular situations we're facing. Reflection is always important because it tells us about the condition of our hearts.

 

The ultimate kindness God showed us when He sent His Son, Jesus, to die for us, so we won't perish. There is no gift that can top what God has done. And just for that, I'm truly grateful because when I received Jesus as my Personal Savior, that's when I found love and this is where He's washing me and making me over to be more like Him.

 

Prayer: Father, I admit there are days when I don't demonstrate true kindness, because there is a constant battle with making the right decisions daily. But this is where I need Your Help, Lord. I realize I can't do this on my own. Show me what being kind really is about, so when I pour Your kindness out to others, they’ll see You living inside me. I love You and Thank You for loving me first, when no one else loves me. Keep working on me. In Jesus' Name, Amen.

 

If you believe in this prayer, then May God continue to bless you in all you desire to know about Him. May 2013 bless you real good! Until next time, be blessed.