Happy Fun Friday!
I’m here to talk about the lighter side of things just to
get you ready for the weekend. Thursday nights are my TV nights I love tuning
in to Grey’s Anatomy and Scandal, and now Tuesdays because of Private
Practice. I admire creator/writer Shonda Rhimes because she always keeps a
fresh perspective on life and it's usually on point because she
understands and know how people, in this world, are. She touched a topic with
April Kepner on Grey's Anatomy that rings true in my heart because it’s hard for most real Christians
(I’m not talking about religious folks, there’s a difference between
spiritual and religious) to get by in the world. I can personally attest
to this because I rarely mention my personal beliefs especially in the
workforce.
Why?
I know how most people are. Usually they’re close-minded.
It’s sad, but true. And I’m going to further elaborate. Most who doesn’t have
understanding tends to put Christians in categories and wrongful assumptions
because too many hypocrites who are “professing” to live the “life” with their
mouths and not with their hearts. And it gives us true Christians a bad
name. There’s a point I’m making here, so bear with me. This applies to all
aspects of life; who are facing this and you don’t necessarily have to be a
Christian to be misunderstood when you’re not living what society calls
“normal.”
I’ll give you a few examples of stereotypes that are made
against Christians. Note: I loathe stereotypes; I do my best to stay
away from them. I know that most generalizations and stereotypes are lies!
Examples: We’re called crazy. Holy rollers. Harsh.
Judgmental. Weird. We wear ugly clothing and have no style. We don’t understand
“life.” Isolated. Unfriendly. Cruel. And all of these stereotypes I named off the top
of my head are just what some people perceive as “true.” And I sincerely say
this: NONE OF THIS IS
TRUE!!!!
We’re not that way at all. Real Christians understand
and know everyone falls and mess up. But it’s how you get back up after you
fall. We know full well what God’s mercy and grace is all about. He forgives us
after we admit our faults and turn it over to Him, and we are easily forgiven
and our slate is wiped clean, not by people, but by Him because He has the final
say. Real Christians listen to people, the scribes and Pharisees
in our day, who are called as “outcasts!” We’re inviting and we’re highly aware
we make mistakes, but we do our best to correct the mistakes we make if we hurt
someone that costs something important to him or her. And when the person we
offend forgives us and still wants to be our friend, that’s where honest
redemption kicks in.
Yes, I’m all for being real, for being real is the only way
to be in this thing we call life.
I have a problem when we, as people, are told by society,
who possesses limited perspectives, by the way, to be what is seen as the
“right” and “only” way. We have different people everywhere we go. When we
judge based on what we see on the outside, we must ask ourselves, are we
rushing to false conclusion too quickly?
You bet. If you’re not pretty enough, rich enough, thin
enough, or not qualified (and the list goes on and on) in this hasty 21st
Century we live in, we’re considered outcasts. The un-cool. Dorks. Need I say
more?
As I mentioned in my last post, it doesn’t matter if you
believe in God or not. I meant what I said. Never please others to seek
their approval when it will only cost you heartache in the end.
I never understand why society wants us to live in such a
plastic world that breaks every individual inwardly? We must ask ourselves
this: why is it so much easier to pretend to be someone we’re not versus to be
who we really are?
One, we want acceptance. I don’t know one person who doesn’t
want to be accepted.
Two, we want to be loved unconditionally. Sad to say, not
everyone loves without limitations.
If we’re honest, we creatures have limits. The Only One who doesn’t have
any limits is God and God alone. His love is there forever and when
everyone else walks away, you best believe He is always here for you
even when you feel you’re alone.
Three, keeping up with temporary fads makes us important
outwardly but not in our hearts. That’s where voids step in.
We have emptiness and we're longing to be loved and accepted,
and wanting to be free from biased opinions and prejudices. It’s rare to find real people these days
because it seems like in the role of society: every one has a “price.”
This is further from the truth. Some things aren’t worth
selling your soul to. If you want something so desperately just to seek
approval, you best believe the deal you made with the other person will come
back to haunt you later.
A real person will not have any hang ups about you, he or she
will accept everything about you and not changing anything that makes
you who you are. I’m not talking about
changing someone to be the ideal candidate; for none of us can make a person we
want him or her to be.
When a person tends to bring out the worst in you. It’s time
to question why he or she shouldn’t be in your life. If he or she always tries
to make you look bad by poking fun of who you are, this tells you the issues
are lying deep within him or her—not you. If you’re doing all you can to
make it work and the result is the same, then it’s definitely the other
party. A person who refuses to acknowledge when he or she is at fault, then he or she
is filled with pride, arrogance, and self-righteousness like he or she)can’t do
anything wrong, but he or she is always “right” and always
“perfect.” No one is perfect. Period.
I’ve experienced this with people who I’m extremely glad they’re not in my life anymore. This type tends to never consider what
you’re saying to them and they’re narcissistic. And that’s a sad way to
be. If you can’t consider what the other person is saying to you, then you need
to self-examine your heart. Not misjudging the other person.
It’s the matters of the heart that counts. Not how much
money you have in the bank or the cars you drive or the house you live in. You
can have all those things and still be a hot mess inside. Don’t be fooled by
what you see on the outside, there’s something much deeper that is going on
inside! People don’t behave out of the norm for no reason. Someone conditioned
them to be that way and most people feel that is the way to adapt to life.
I’m telling you because I love you enough to tell you the
truth. No, life doesn’t have to be this way. It’s all you how you make it.
Perception is the ultimate key to life. When we put things into perspective,
life makes more sense.
My message for you today: if there are people in your life
putting pressure on you, trying to groom you into someone you’re not.
Don’t fall in the pressure--for you are not a mistake! Live, learn, and grow.
When we stop living: we stop growing and learning as people.
If you find yourself alone, don’t worry; in time you will
have friends who will love you the way you are. You will never have to hide who
you are destined to be. Let your true self shine brightly and if the others aren't impressed, then they're certainly not meant to be in your life. For
there will be someone else who totally gets you.
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